Seriously it’s like the brothers just get stuck in boy world and can’t enter manhood!
An inspirational speaker once said this and it has stuck with me:
‘The warrior has to be built long before the fight begins’
I don’t mean this in the literal sense but in the way that they need to be trained from a young age to face the fight and struggle that we all know life is. The majority of boys are not brought up to be warriors. They are wrapped in cotton wool and mothered into their twenties. Then when arrives the responsibility of becoming a man and eventually get married, they can’t handle it. They run away like small children and close their eyes hoping it will all go away. It’s a sad and worrying problem for all society and especially for me and my Muslim sisters out there!
Our beloved prophet (s) was a great warrior. Even the Quraysh would say that he was the most merciful and trustworthy man ever but when he had to, he would defend his people and defend Islam. He was no coward and most definitely not weak.
What I see around me is a lack of responsibility and courage. They are strong when it comes to gang fights but when faced with a real problem this strength turns into cowardliness. These are Muslim boys, who are supposed to be the leaders of our families and more importantly the Ummah. However, all they are interested in is the street and having that ‘reputation’. Education is pushed aside and its all about having the best-looking car, the shiniest chain, the biggest biceps and the most money (whether this is halal or not). It’s fake and immature and won’t get them anywhere! Some claim to be ‘stuck’ and ‘this is the only way’. Pfffff, sorry but this life is a choice. Be a man and deal with it because no one feels sorry for you but yourself. If you can get yourself in you can get yourself out. Do what it takes, you only have Allah to fear. But sadly the religion is far from their hearts and practicing is something saved for old age.
Love is a disease and marriage is just kids.
See if we brought up our sons and youth to be warriors we wouldn’t have this problem. If we engraved the Deen into their hearts as it should be, if we made the prayer part of their life and if they truly feared Allah all mighty then they would be ready for life. They would be ready for the fight and on the way to success in this life and the hereafter inshallah. They should emulate the Prophet (s), only then will they have the courage to enter manhood. They say boys don’t mature until later but why is this? It’s because of their upbringing, because we are not building warriors. The prophet (s) was 20 when he married Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her)! Times change but this is one thing that has definitely changed for the worse and needs to be amended.
If you have sons, small brothers and cousins then start training them now. Give them responsibilities, teach them discipline, make them love education and learning and most importantly make them love Islam and fear Allah. Make them leaders and get them ready for their future of hardships and responsibilities!
I’m not generalising all men. Alhamdulillah we have many brothers who are on the right path but it is not enough and the majority of our brothers are far from it and need a kick in the right direction!
May Allah guide all our brothers who love money more than the Deen and make them into warriors :)
Your sister in Islam x
An inspirational speaker once said this and it has stuck with me:
‘The warrior has to be built long before the fight begins’
I don’t mean this in the literal sense but in the way that they need to be trained from a young age to face the fight and struggle that we all know life is. The majority of boys are not brought up to be warriors. They are wrapped in cotton wool and mothered into their twenties. Then when arrives the responsibility of becoming a man and eventually get married, they can’t handle it. They run away like small children and close their eyes hoping it will all go away. It’s a sad and worrying problem for all society and especially for me and my Muslim sisters out there!
Our beloved prophet (s) was a great warrior. Even the Quraysh would say that he was the most merciful and trustworthy man ever but when he had to, he would defend his people and defend Islam. He was no coward and most definitely not weak.
What I see around me is a lack of responsibility and courage. They are strong when it comes to gang fights but when faced with a real problem this strength turns into cowardliness. These are Muslim boys, who are supposed to be the leaders of our families and more importantly the Ummah. However, all they are interested in is the street and having that ‘reputation’. Education is pushed aside and its all about having the best-looking car, the shiniest chain, the biggest biceps and the most money (whether this is halal or not). It’s fake and immature and won’t get them anywhere! Some claim to be ‘stuck’ and ‘this is the only way’. Pfffff, sorry but this life is a choice. Be a man and deal with it because no one feels sorry for you but yourself. If you can get yourself in you can get yourself out. Do what it takes, you only have Allah to fear. But sadly the religion is far from their hearts and practicing is something saved for old age.
Love is a disease and marriage is just kids.
See if we brought up our sons and youth to be warriors we wouldn’t have this problem. If we engraved the Deen into their hearts as it should be, if we made the prayer part of their life and if they truly feared Allah all mighty then they would be ready for life. They would be ready for the fight and on the way to success in this life and the hereafter inshallah. They should emulate the Prophet (s), only then will they have the courage to enter manhood. They say boys don’t mature until later but why is this? It’s because of their upbringing, because we are not building warriors. The prophet (s) was 20 when he married Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her)! Times change but this is one thing that has definitely changed for the worse and needs to be amended.
If you have sons, small brothers and cousins then start training them now. Give them responsibilities, teach them discipline, make them love education and learning and most importantly make them love Islam and fear Allah. Make them leaders and get them ready for their future of hardships and responsibilities!
I’m not generalising all men. Alhamdulillah we have many brothers who are on the right path but it is not enough and the majority of our brothers are far from it and need a kick in the right direction!
May Allah guide all our brothers who love money more than the Deen and make them into warriors :)
Your sister in Islam x
Mashallah Fantastic!
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